Posts tagged Self Help
It’s been a busy few weeks for Julian and I. Finally, after a lot of tapping on the computer – and even more procrastinating on my part – we have both published our books. Actually, Julian released Damaged Goods a few weeks ago and has already had his first royalty cheque!
It’s a funny thing to accomplish a goal, particularly one you have held for so long (and if I’m honest so vaguely!) I think it’s been more of a belief for me that one day I would write a book, rather than a goal. It certainly hasn’t been a well formed NLP type goal anyway!
I was very excited yesterday to see that my first book The Self Help Bible – Volume 1 – About Self Esteem and How to be Confident (volume 1 – that pretty much obliges me to write some more now doesn’t it!) had gone live on Kindle, that started the day well.
Then, Julian sent me a picture of the paperback in his hand, the proof copy of which arrived while I was out, and my excitement increased. So, by the time I got a copy in my hands last night, I was well and truly ‘hyper’ as Julian says! It was a real buzz!
I have built it a website, introduced it to Twitter and Facebook, announced it to Google and everything else I could think of, so now my little book has to make it’s own way in the world, and much like a proud parent, I have to just wait and see if I’ve done a good enough job for it to survive in the real world.
I’m pretty good at seeing the good bits in life, so, I can say truthfully that today is my best sales day to date. It’s day one perhaps, but I have sold a couple, so I remain hopeful! I have the next 4 volumes part written and all planned, volume 1 has gone off to be reviewed and a couple of people have asked for a signed copy – how cool is that!
The books are very simple, like me – to the point, yep, also like me, and fun – I hope that’s like me too! It is my hope, that they will bring hope to others by showing how easy it can be to change your life, with a little guidance and some will.
As it says at the top of our blog, we firmly believe that with the right System and Mindset, if you are willing to put in some Activity (consistent Action) then success will be yours!
Watch this space!
We understand that you might not want to take our word for it, so how about Joseph McClendon III, one of Tony Robbins closest friends and peak performance coaches? As humans we’re programmed to trust people we know and figures of authority and they don’t come with much more authority than Joseph McClendon. So here is a great interview conducted by my friend and successful PR coach Maritza Duncan.
Success is that elusive thing that we all search for, in one form or another, at some point in our lives. Early on, we might measure success in terms of being popular in the playground, or top of the class. Later, we might have a hobby or sport we want to excel at. We might think we are successful if we have an attractive partner or lots of friends, material possessions or money in the bank. We might measure our own success through the results of others, like our children for example, or people that we help, teach and interact with.
However we measure success, the point is that we do all measure it and we strive to be successful in at least one area of our lives. You could even argue the point that people who really mess up in some way are actually successful. If you consider success to be the achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted, as defined in some dictionaries and they set out to fail, then in doing so they are successful – almost like anti-success!
So how can you ensure success, or at least give yourself the very best chance? After much study and deliberation, I would like to offer you a three step formula for success, giving you the three key elements you need to create your own success.
The first thing you need in order to be successful is the right mindset…
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One of our goals for 2011, is to have a best selling ebook and we are in the process of writing one on self development now.
We are covering lots of areas, with an NLP (neuro linguistic programming) bias, because that’s our field of expertise. Some of the topics we are covering include:
- What your unconscious mind is and how it works for you
- How your mindset determines your perception, communication and results
- Where your beliefs, self esteem, values and attitudes come from
- What they do for you and how you change them if they are no longer helpful to you
- General personal development and mindset improvement techniques
To make sure its relevant for today and offers really great value, we were wondering, if there was any question that you could ask on that subject, what would it be?
We’d really appreciate your help with this, either by commenting here or in an email if you prefer (firstname.lastname@example.org) obviously any comments we receive will remain anonymous.
Once completed, the book will be available to buy and for you to sell and make some money from as an affiliate product in Clickbank.
Thanks in advance,
Amanda and Julian
I was looking through some old pictures today. One of them is of a pretty young girl aged around 13. She is leaning back in the sunshine, laughing and she looks happy, as every 13 year old should.
I know that this girl had a hard time in the years that followed this photograph and ended up addicted to drugs, in jail and with serious long term health conditions to contend with as a result. I know that to this day she suffers because of the immediate repercussions and as a result of the prejudices of other people.
What first struck me as I looked at this picture, was that at the time it was taken, she had her whole life ahead of her. She could have been, had or done anything she wanted with the right tools and guidance and it made me feel sad for her and the things she has missed out on.
Then the real penny dropped. This girl is no different to any of us on any given day. The point we are at is a result of the sum of all our days, thoughts and actions to date. Where we go from here is up to us, we have the power to choose our future in every instant.
New Year is traditionally a time for thinking about rebirth and yet we can do this any day we wish. Why don’t you think today about where you want to be tomorrow, next week, next year? Don’t let the past be an excuse to avoid the brilliant future you could choose to have. Imagine being able to meet yourself as a child, wouldn’t you want to know that this child was going to have a wonderful life thanks to you? Whilst we are all a day older than we were yesterday, today is still the day it always was and will be. What better time to decide to start a bright new tomorrow than today?
Did you know it’s impossible to feel bad if you smile?
Even if your smile is merely a forced upward movement of the corner of your lips, you will feel better. Honest!
There are scientific reasons for it. The muscles that are moved when you smile, exert pressure on your brain, which triggers a release of the happy hormone, Serotonin, which in turn induces a chemical feeling of well being. It won’t solve all your problems, but feeling better has to be a good start surely! Next time you are in a temper, feeling frustrated or sad, give it a try. Put a big smile on your face, the bigger and sillier the better, and notice the feeling of well being that it brings with it. Catching sight of yourself doing it is often enough to make you laugh out loud, by which point you’ve really broken into the cycle of whatever you were feeling, only moments before.
The most important thing in this exercise, is the fact that you are putting yourself back in control of your emotions. Rather than allowing which ever negative emotion was over taking you to dictate your behaviour, you are interrupting the pattern and giving yourself enough time to decide, how you want to feel.
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Did you realise that everything you believe is only true for you because you decided it is? You have effectively built your life around a set of rules, given to you by someone else, which you at some point decided to accept as your own – often without even questioning!
There are things so very dear to you, that were I to suggest they may not be true to everyone; you may well take offence at my statement. Obviously my intent in writing this article is not to offend anyone, I would however like to make you think a little today.
Where Did Your Beliefs Come From?
Self Esteem is one of the fundamental ways in which we gauge and value ourselves and decides how we live our lives and interact with other people. It is an underlying part of our every decision, feeling and response and the level of our self esteem affects how we live and what we strive for, which in turn contributes to our overall satisfaction andhappiness in life.
Having a good level of self esteem enables you to form healthy relationships and to treat others with fairness and respect.
We tend to accept the things that fit in with our way of thinking and ignore those that do not. This is fine in a positive scenario, but can be both limiting and damaging, if the influence is a negative one. If you constantly doubt and measure yourself badly against others, you will not feel good. Also, if you put other people down all the time, finding fault in their beliefs or behaviour, it shows that you are very far from liking yourself – It can be a way for the mind to ignore the fact that your own behaviour is similarly bad.
Many of us look to others, to tell us that we’re doing ok and don’t value or believe in our own judgements. Imagine then how empowering it would be, to not base your self opinion upon that of others, but instead to have the self confidence to make decisions and move forward freely in your life, without the constant need for approbation. More >
We have, since the dawn of time, striven to find empirical evidence to support our latest hypotheses, which have been taken as gospel until the next theory developed enough to disprove them. It always strikes me as funny how much we rely on scientific proof these days, when you think about how mankind survived without it for so many centuries.
Two articles have caught my eye in the past couple of weeks which offer some scientific proof of something many of us accept to be true, the fact that our mind and body are connected and affect each other. What we often refer to as the ‘Mind Body Connection.‘
The first was a report on a recent experiment where people were not allowed to touch themselves when they had a pain. Another group were encouraged to hold or grip the site and the pain signals received by the brain were measured. The results clearly showed a reduction in pain when people touched themselves. A great indicator of the power of a healing or loving touch, one of course all parents and carers are already familiar with.
The second article again involved two groups of people. One group exercised every day over a given period, the second group imagined themselves exercising. At the end of the experiment, the group who had actually carried out the physical exercise had a 28% increase in muscle tone but the other group had an astonishing 24% increase through the power of thought alone.
To me this confirms a belief I have long held. You can become anyone and achieve anything if you just put your mind to it. If you can see it in your mind, if you can imagine it, you can become or have it. Great news for all of us who haven’t yet achieved all we want to!
A question we are often asked is ‘What is NLP and how can it help me?’
Well, have you ever felt, or thought, that sometimes your life feels a bit like being in a tunnel, that you’re somehow being held back, with no clear way out? Or, have you ever wished that you could get over a childhood fear, phobia or memory, that still haunts you, even as an adult?
NLP has been a lifeline for many people, helping them to make a bridge across an often stormy sea, to a once distant, brighter shore. It’s like someone finally gave you subtitles to the film of your life and personality, so that you can understand it.
It may not be that the people who taught you were wrong, or even misguided in their advice, perhaps it was just that their way of thinking didn’t suit yours. If theirs is the only guidebook you’ve ever had for understanding your emotions, your reactions to things, then is it any wonder that you sometimes feel as though you are not quite in control? More >